Hi there! I am sorry to hear you and your partner are struggling. I absolutely get where you are coming from. I am diagnosed with major depression myself, and it can be a challenge. Without knowing him personally, it's hard to say if he's in one of the two following categories:

1. He is in a very tough spot and is not able to function (but because he seems to be going to school successfully, this does not seem to be the case)

2. He is depressed but able to function to a degree, but is not willing to put in the effort to do the things that would actually improve his depression (apply for jobs, exercise, help out around the house, etc). Unfortunately the things that are best for us to do while depressed can also feel like the toughest. And sometimes (I've done this before) people will use their diagnosis as a crutch for why they cannot do something.

I had a partner for 3 years who I supported while he stayed at home, drank alcohol and struggled with depression and anger issues. He rarely looked for jobs unless I pushed and could not keep employment. After a while I decided that enough was enough; regardless of his very legitimate struggles, this was not a healthy relationship for me and I broke it off.

You'll need to decide what you are willing to handle with this relationship. Depression is very serious indeed. But if he is waiting for motivation to come to him, he will be waiting for a long time. When depressed, we have to take small steps to accomplish small tasks and as a result create our own motivation. It sounds like he is unwilling to make these small steps at the moment.

Medication and keeping a routine are two things that have helped me tremendously. If he has not seen a psychiatrist or therapist yet, I would encourage him to do so. Wishing you both the best.