Thank you everyone for the kind messages yesterday as I enter this weird phase of grieving for a father I didn't really know. You'll never know how much I appreciate your words.

Tomorrow my brother and I head to his house to try to find any valuable papers or anything else. the house is in such bad condition that to prevent anything from getting into my car we're wearing tyvek overalls, gloves, shoe covers, and masks. Anything that is coming back will be bagged inside and then outside so the bag in my car is clean.

Frankly I dread this. But it must be done. I'm afraid it is going to be what makes the grief really hit because I"m going to learn how awful his living conditions have been. Working in home health in rural Appalachia I've see some bad conditions and this sounds like ti will be close to the worst I've seen.

Thanks so much again.