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Originally Posted by Bowdent
I didn't realize she was, but just recently I realized I don't talk to my mom or my sisters more than once a year or sometimes even less. I thought about why I don't care for my family much and it was because they had done or said things that I disagreed with enough to kind of separate myself from them.
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Does she say things like,
You: “Maybe we could visit my Mom/Sister”
Her: “Great idea... but I have a better idea: why don’t you and I take the opportunity to go on an exciting/romantic/exotic/ trip to [somwhere that isn’t near your Mom/Sister]”
“they could have visited you but they haven’t so they don’t care about you”
“Why did person A call you? You don’t really have anyything in common now anyway”
“Why did person B call you—they’re always bugging you”
“Why did person C call you—they haven’t bothered to call you for months”
Also:
Do you have friends you no longer see?
Did you used to hang out with work colleagues that somehow you just no longer hang out with?
I don’t think any if it is with evil intent, but as pointed out elsewhere, possession isn’t love, and if she is spending her time undercutting you and making you doubt yourself and trying to control you and shrinking your world she’s not likely to stop and she’s not being a good partner. “I only do it because I love you so much and I love being with you”
And so on