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Originally Posted by June Gloom
I can't figure out why I'm so bad at maintaining relationships and seemingly simple things like fixing a fight with a friend, or picking up on social cues that everyone else seems to understand. When people realize how bad I am at this, they're surprised because I'm not seen as dumb, I have a 4.3 GPA and 98th percentile test scores (still could be better in my mind, but not horrible) yet every time I get close to somebody i do something stupid or push them away by being controlling or not picking up on something social related. How can I stop this before I have to go out into the real world as an adult and end up alone forever?
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You'll find friends but maybe not the types you're describing. I'd suggest hanging out with people that you can relate with. It's nice being yourself and not having to adapt and learn how to be a different person. It's very difficult and exhausting being someone you're not.
The one thing I'll suggest would be to stay positive and don't let others see you get discouraged. Releasing negative emotions pushes people away more than not being able to know a social cue. I had friends just like you and it's nice to be able to have an intelligent conversation. If everyone acted the same it would be a very boring world. The conversations about famous social media people are quite mundane and a big waste of my time . I don't understand the obsession with following people's lives they don't know personally. But I'll give some of my time to learn the basics of what's going on in the "normal" people world even if its dumb so I can relate with employees.
Be yourself and don't worry about life after high school. College is way more fun which I hope you plan to go. I dont miss the high school drama and the teachers with the inferior personality.
Thanks for sharing your concerns