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Originally Posted by ennie
First of all, let me make it clear that this is NOT my opinion that people are set in their ways after 50. I've heard it from two different family members, two decades older than me, past the age of 50, referring to themselves as being set in their ways. I've been told:
"Don't expect me to change. I'm over 50. I'm set in my ways."
Is that just another excuse not to change, or is it really true that once you are established in life, the change becomes difficult?
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I dont' think anyone at any age is set in their ways. Change is difficult for many people and that's just a generalization that has some basis in truth but is definitely not a hard line fact.
I think that being over 50 I've changed a lot of my views, my beliefs and many things about myself over the past few years and feel that in some ways I was far more rigid in remaining the same at a younger age. With experience and time, I think that much of the time you figure out things are not always what they seem and fads, trends and ideas change drastically which then can make you far more apt to take a lot of things in life with a grain of salt, and realize that most everything is a passing phase.
for me, in a good number of ways I am a bit more flexible! I know at this point in my life that in all truth, I dont' know everything (as I once thought when I was 20ish) but know a thing or two about life and it's fluidity with regards to the world. What is, has been before and what has been will be again. So why be rigid and succumb to the idea that I am past the ability to change ? It just seems like an excuse to brush off when anyone is critical of your behaviors.