It's gotten drastically worse. I think she has figured out somehow that have figured out that I'm seeing her true self. She seems to be doing everything she can to remove me from my life, and my kids life. She has come up with a new in home job plan, planned activities for them, and come up with a consequence for misbehavior program for them. All of this with zero input, or even knowledge from me. Last night when I got home she tried to get my 10 year old daughter to go deliver the consequence to my 15 year old son for him not doing his "daily job". My 10 year old daughter is her golden child right now and she said "Why don't you go tell your brother that he gets to lose his phone for tomorrow?" "Or you could do his job for him...even though he never helps you out with anything." "Why don't you just go tell him."

I stepped in and did his job for him because the age difference between these 2 siblings has put them into constant friction. I could sense she knew it would cause friction and that's why she seemed to be baiting my daughter into the opportunity to exercise "parental-like authority" over her older brother.


That same 15 year old son has been struggling a lot with school lately, almost failing his math class. We got him a tutor so he could bring his grade up, but when I got home last night he said he wasn't able to see the tutor because his mom wouldn't take him. It conflicted with her yoga class that she took my 13 year old daughter to. This is only the 3rd or 4th time I have seen her go to yoga class in the 24 years we have been together. I asked my son how that made him feel and he said "It doesn't really matter how I feel, we live in mom's world, and I have to just deal with it for 3 more years. and then I hope I never have to see her again." I know teens say things about disliking their parents, but this was not said in a burst of anger, or rebellion. He said it in a quiet, calm tone, with a look of intense sadness and defeat on his face. My wife is pushing him to the edge of his capacity to emotionally cope with his pain.

I am no longer sharing these things on this site to get reassurance that my wife has a mental illness. The things I have witnessed over the past several years, along with seeing the things before that with new eyes, show me that I need no reassurance of the things I know in my soul. My children are in danger of suffering severe, irreparable emotional and psychological damage, but there is no way I can get them away from her. No solution, be it divorce, separation, or doing nothing at all can save them from her. The harder I try to show her that the things she is doing to them and me, the more subtle and malicious her attacks become. There have been times where she was berating them, and I knew if I stepped in, she would back off and then berate them 10 times worse when I wasn't there, because she has done that before, more than once. So, I left and vomited in the bathroom because I was so sickened that I couldn't stop my wife from destroying my beautiful children.


I don't know what to do, there seems to be no way to escape her grasp. I don't see a way to help my children grow and turn into wonderful human beings. I have lost the vision of all I thought it was to be a father, and to see my kids experience the joys of life. Instead I spend nearly all of my waking hours trying to figure out a way to protect them from the woman who is supposed to be the most nurturing soul the would ever know.


I realize that no one on this website can really tell me what I need to do. I understand that I alone can make the decisions I need to make. I just never knew I would be required to walk through the fires of hell to rescue my children from their own mother.

Thank you for your support. It's Wednesday, only 2 more days until I see my therapist again, and she can help guide me. Just 2 more days.