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Originally Posted by MrMoose
Does she say things like,
You: “Maybe we could visit my Mom/Sister”
Her: “Great idea... but I have a better idea: why don’t you and I take the opportunity to go on an exciting/romantic/exotic/ trip to [somwhere that isn’t near your Mom/Sister]”
“they could have visited you but they haven’t so they don’t care about you”
“Why did person A call you? You don’t really have anyything in common now anyway”
“Why did person B call you—they’re always bugging you”
“Why did person C call you—they haven’t bothered to call you for months”
Also:
Do you have friends you no longer see?
Did you used to hang out with work colleagues that somehow you just no longer hang out with?
I don’t think any if it is with evil intent, but as pointed out elsewhere, possession isn’t love, and if she is spending her time undercutting you and making you doubt yourself and trying to control you and shrinking your world she’s not likely to stop and she’s not being a good partner. “I only do it because I love you so much and I love being with you”
And so on
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She says all of those things and more. Like "I don't know how you ended up so stable and emotionally perceptive with the way your family is so screwed up." That was 2 months ago, now she says "I sincerely think you might be bipolar." How did I go from stable and perceptive to bipolar in 2 months? The truth is I didn't, and I also used to think it wasn't with evil intent. After years of soul searching, reading, going to therapy, and forgiving her verbal, emotional, and physical abuse (yes, there has been physical as well) I have exhausted every other possible solution besides that she is doing it with the most evil and malicious intent. The kicker is that we can't even talk about it because according to her 99% of the painful events that I experienced never happened.