Hi Never Happy,
I have something similar currently going on around me in a friend's Asian family. I am not Asian but my friends is also the brother involved in his sister's unhappiness. I can see how much my friend loves his sister and wants to protect her every possible way from harm. I can also see that for this generation of Asian families - there is this "western" vs tradition thing going on every moment of their relationship decisions. Supposing that "western", as in western media images, means freedom (I'm pretty sure it doesn't but our media lead our young people to believe so.)

Anyways I see the generational conflicts and disputes first hand - and that on top of the usual growing up first relationship mistakes made by men and women.

Lots of young women in all countries make mistakes in their first relationships, become depressed by that, and then recover and go on to found happy secure families.

My friend says that to him the most important thing is that his sister can talk openly with him and her other friends about her choices and her feelings. Your sister sounds much wilder than his sister, so you may have an even rougher time ahead than he has.

Thing is: we cannot stop these family disagreements and challenges from happening, especially now that Asian families send/ allow their children to travel right across the world rather than keeping them close. Perhaps there are already some advice lines set up in your country to help deal with generational conflict - whether you are in the west or still in Asia.

If we can't stop thing happening, then humans being need to adapt emotionally to deal with them. You need to learn about your own emotional survival, you need to look at the different cultural influences in your life (individualism vs family), you make choices and you work at communicating positively with people who disagree with your choices. I am sure that your can find resources to help develop your own emotional stability either in Asian cultural/ spiritual traditions or elsewhere in our world.

After you have take responsibility for yourself, then you can stand strong like an oak and act kindly in the relationship problems of other people - being a reminder to them of what a connected, healthy human being looks like.

Lol, my response started out of care and has ended up sounding like a lecture! Sorry for that. My friend is 30 and went through many years in his 20's trying to sort all this out. We are now at last trying to put his sister in the way of sorting out her life.

It takes time, and avoiding all the nasty reactive pitfalls that families can set up for each other: stop, breathe, listen, communicate, have faith, be patient.

Saidso