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Originally Posted by Gymgirl71
When he says “I can’t” I would complain, whine and yes it would lead to an argument. He would start just saying “yes” to please me..so he has been creating boundaries this past month. I don’t even initiate it now, he does. So I don’t know if it’s because he feels obligated, or what the reason is. I wish I knew..he may just legitimately not be up to it by the time it rolls around but I’m making assumptions..last couple times I feel it could have been due to me hounding him my text and phone, and questioning him so he may have gotten turned off...
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Unless I misunderstood you, I think you may have answered your own question Gymgirl71. When he previously set boundaries, he received a negative response from you so now he appears (I can't read his mind) to be trying to set boundaries indirectly possibly in order to avoid "complaints" from you. His approach isn't helping to clarify things but I think you may want to take ownership for what may have led him to his current trend. Does that make sense? Zero judgment here. Relationships are difficult. I'm just trying to understand both sides in order to help you move forward.