I watched a documentary about "incels." They are not well. Many appear to be struggling with intense social anxiety or depression. Though I am not suggesting that every male with anxiety or depression identifies as an "incel." I would not focus on them. They do not represent the vast majority of men. A lot of men and women have responded with praise to the film about a female super hero. I think it's helpful to focus on that rather than on a small minority of very angry and unwell guys. I had a male friend who was deeply into comics etc. He was also a loving husband and father who respects women.