I live with and care for my 83 year old mother. I help her with bills, finances, meals, house keeping, driving her to her many appointments and many other things. Currently she is incapacitated due to a broken ankle that is not healing properly. This is on top of all the minutiae (PT, tdoc, pdoc, social life, daughter, etc) of my own personal life. It’s a heavy load sometimes and I’m not spread between two households like you would be.

It sounds like your dad could use your help BUT not at the expense of your well being. You could start with his finances and bills and see how you handle that added responsibility then proceed from there.

I hope you come to a decision that brings you peace. Good luck.