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Originally Posted by SilverTrees
This is a really interesting and important question, Ennie. Could you fill in some details? What's the relationship? Colleague, family, friend? What is it that she is asking for help with exactly? Sorry, I got a bit lost when i tried to follow the rest of the thread.
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What is the relationship? Blood relative [ugh].
What is it that she has asked for help with? EVERYTHING--rides, financial issues, information, like instead of googling things for herself or calling the place to inquire herself, relying on me to be her information desk for every little information:
-Like the address of a place;
-A date and time of an event, etc.
I've distanced myself from her significantly but she has tried to hoover me back recently so I am on an alert. But being taken advantage of has been a pattern for me with others and not just her.
In therapy, I made a progress and can now say "No" to
new people.
But with the
same people I've went out of my way, doing anything and everything to help in the past, it's been hard to break off their habits and expectations.