I’m sorry Bird Dancer, I didn’t consider that bills/finances might not be your thing. I’m a CPA so that’s the easiest aspect for me and I’m cleaning the house so I’ve no need to supervise myself.

It’s true good help is invaluable. When mom first fell down the escalator, I had two friends come in (I paid them) who are dynamite at cleaning and organization set up the house for an invalid with a wheelchair.

That’s a great idea the other two posters had about evaluating the housekeeper. At some point though, somebody will probably need to help your dad with bills since that could be what’s troubling him so.