Bottom line is that research has shown the neuroplasticity of the brain. This means that the neural pathways CAN be changed with work & practice & repetition of the change wanted to be made. CAN & WANT are the key words here.

I am a good example of MAJOR change after 50. I finally had enough in my 33 year marriage. I bought a little farm 2100 miles away from where I lived all my life in a town where I knew no one. I also had never lived along before the age of 54.

When I left my H I was as angry as one can be (literally seeing red when I had to deal with him).

I had my degree in accounting & computer science so I knew I was capable of learning. I just had no idea how much learning, running a home by myself would take. Not only did I learn plumbing & auto & lawn tractor mechanics but best of all I learned how to really relate better to people who are now in my life after living & relating to totally dysfunctional family ALL my life. Best if all I feel at peace for the first time in my life.

Desire for change is a must or there will be none. My EX-H is still the jerk I left BUT in learning better how to interface with people functionally I was even capable of NOT reverting to my old ways when I had to go back for a court hearing last summer against him.

Our minds are capable of changing ONLY if there is the WILL TO CHANGE.