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Originally Posted by Elio
Art - I hope you don't mind me poking in here. Is there a reason you have to get over loving her? Wouldn't accepting that you love her; that it's ok to love her; and it's ok to love her even if she is not in your life anymore be a valuable step as well?
For some reason when I read your statement, I got the feeling of loving her meant possessing/owning her. Like if you couldn't have her in your life the way you want her to be there then there's no reason to love her or that you shouldn't love her.
It also reminded me of your quote about finding barriers to love. What barriers are you putting in place so that this love doesn't hurt or what barriers are in place so you cannot or no longer feel the love that is there (and yeah, kind of thinking of looking at the mirror on this one - not sure if I'm ready).
I know there's so much more to it than this, as I only know a fraction of what you have experienced, so forgive me if I'm completely off base here.
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Thanks Elio. I don't mind at all. Lots of good stuff to think about. I guess a lot of this attitude of mine comes from her seeming to not make much of an effort to understand my feelings about her until in my mind anyway it was too little too late and then on top of that, from a young place inside me feeling rejected because she ignored my response to a podcast she emailed me (completely unsolicited btw) that I know she knew I would have a reaction to. I hadn't really been able to explain this before now I guess....