I pass the part of blaming my parents either, they had terrible pasts too.
They are sick too, they have mental health problems. I believe my father is depressed too, without knowing, and that my mother as unresolved emotional issues.
I want to send them to therapy too and to a good shrink. Is that to messy of me? I already send them to mindfullness, but I dont think is enough. I just want a funcional family...without the mess that house went through over the years. I see someone good deep down those messy parents.
Unfortunatelly this is the messy woman searching for love talking, but they are suffering and they can give much more to this world. And they make each other suffer.