There might be a miscommunication here.

I am not talking about the kind of judging by looks where the fact that a person is scruffy and unkempt indicates something negative about their character. I, for one, am altogether turned off by rotting teeth. It means a total lack of care, and refusal to do something that *can* be done. Plus, bad oral hygiene would be unpleasant to kiss.

I am talking about the kind of judging by looks where it is something that a person cannot help. Freckles, big feet, a crooked nose, baldness, or whatever. A woman on a dating program was asked what she wanted in a man, and the first thing she said was, "Oh, he's got to have a cute butt...." That kind of thinking just offends me. Anybody's character is far more important than their butt, or anything else physical.

And here is my sticky point. You who are praising the importance of physical appearance, do you mean you would absolutely refuse to date someone who doesn't look like your ideal? What type of physical appearance do you mean, the grooming or the genetic? And, if you had a choice between a good looking mean person, or a homely sweetheart, which would you choose?