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Originally Posted by TishaBuv
I would love to have the healthy dynamic with a mother like you described. I’m not sure any of you grasp what goes on here.
Bringing up things from the past— This isn’t a thing from the past. It was a rift that happened months ago and no one has spoken since. It’s in the past because time has moved on. But it’s certainly not ‘in the past’. If something is ‘in the past’ it means that thing was acceptable enough for you to continue on with the relationship, still kinda sore about something,but willing to acept it.
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Yes, I know your mother is very troubled and I agree that I probably don't really fully understand how much it has and still traumatizes you. Yes, we are lucky to have the kind of relationships we have with our parents.
I know that the fallout was never resolved--that you were gaslighted makes it harder. I also think that we dwell on these things more when we are under stress. That you need support right now while going through a divorce probably makes you think about it even more.