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Originally Posted by Ohseedee
I have been on and off Psychcentral for quite some time. This rough relationship dynamic, whether between yourself and family, or yourself and husband, seems to be a common pattern. I am not blaming you by any means, but it seems like you try to keep relationships going that are very much not working.
I know this sounds very simplified, but have you considered doing a pros/cons list? Something like "Pros/Cons of trying to maintain these relationships". I find if I'm struggling with a tough decision, these types of lists can help.
I know this is a one-sided account of things, but from what you have described, your mother and sisters do not strike me as individuals that I would want to have relationships with.
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Yes, there were three main relationships I’ve had with ‘difficult’ people when I was so desperate I found this place. It was an incident with Mom over yet another ruined holiday when I first began posting. The other problematic relationship was husband. Then there was this toxic friend who was not so bad, I thought would be manageable.
I had no idea I’d lose my two sisters and step dad. I thought those relationships were healthy.
No, you don’t see me have problems with many other people on here. In all the time I’m here, I only rant about this stuff. I would like them to put on my tomb stone, “It wasn’t JUST ME!”
