I do the dumbest thing. For example, if it has been a holiday or T was away or something I go like this: "Um, I really want to ask how it was, but I know you really aren't going to tell me, so just know that I care how it was and hope it was good." (Which is a total lie because I hate when he goes away and I can't really think about him having a great time with his family. And he knows it's a ******** lie, too, hahaha ). Then I feel better. LOL.