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Originally Posted by divine1966
Is she complaining that you don’t call often enough? Hm. She can always call herself too. Or maybe she could face the reality that maybe you don’t want to call more often because of things she says when you call! You can’t please some people!
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She plays manipulative games with the phone. She refuses to call her children, basically, feels we must call her. This is based on her feeling that’s the way it works in respecting your mother. The child calls the mother. However, she uses this tactic of abandonment sporadically. In ‘normal’ times, our calls to each other are more natural and mutual.
My one sister told me that Mom never calls her, only she calls Mom and asked me if Mom is the same with me. At that time, Mom was not at all like that with me. But since this, Mom has given me the same silent treatment.
However, just as I write this post, Mom called and did say she is coming to visit and bringing chicken soup from the store.
Maybe when she’s here, I’ll get her to make a conference call to my sisters and just have it out. They’ll all say they love me and they are sorry and we’ll ‘move on’ in whatever capacity that may be.
Never mind the trauma this put me and my family through. The depressive episode I suffered from this was more traumatic to me than any other prior trauma. I told them I have PTSD. They 1. Don’t believe it, 2. Don’t care