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Old Mar 11, 2019, 09:46 AM
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Originally Posted by SilverTrees View Post
If you feel that things are good with your husband in other ways, it could be that he truly doesn't understand depression and doesn't know how to help. That's different from not caring though I fully understand why you would feel alienated and lonely.

Yeah, some people are being really hard on the husband, when it may be he's not sure how to help. I was in a long-term relationship with someone with serious depression (I am female, ex is male). I was often not sure what to do when he would come home from work and just wanted to smoke pot and go to bed. If I cooked, he'd just say something like, I only ate it because you cooked it. Being the partner in that sort of situation is not easy either.

Can you set some time aside to have a more in-depth conversation with your husband, without distractions, maybe send the kids to stay with relatives for a few hours? Try and prepare yourself. When I was in that situation, I know I would have preferred some concrete suggestions as far as what I could do to help.