I just read that thread, and I only saw one or two people who put looks at the top of the list. But that doesn't mean that their list only had one and only trait, nor did it mean that they only would consider dating good-looking women. I'd be careful not to read too much into a "list" of "ideal" characteristics.

I am very attracted to my husband physically, but that's not at all why I started dating him. He seemed too young for me when I met him, and despite being attractive, I decided I did NOT want to date someone so much younger (he turned out only to be 5 years younger, but he seemed younger than that). But after getting to know him as friends, he did end up charming me with his sensitivity, intelligence, and nurturing characteristics, and THAT is what won me over. The fact that he was also attractive (to me - not necessarily to everyone) was an added bonus.

Just be careful not to read too much into lists - in general, they are harmful to read if one is insecure about themselves.