...and you know, Lovebirds, I bet your fiance finds you attractive. Does it make him shallow because he does? No - everyone is attracted to different things. There is no single ideal of what beauty looks like. Not everyone things that Paris Hilton is beautiful or ideal. I know that my husband thinks I'm pretty but to some other men, I am not in the least attractive. I think my husband is handsome, but he before me, he tried to date other women who told him that they didn't find him attractive.

What is important is that your mate be attractive *to you* and that you are attractive *to him or her*. I think you'd be hard-pressed to find anyone, male or female, who would say that "universally attractive" is at the top of their list.