What makes me insecure is that Donald Trump said, "Any man would rather date a supermodel, if he could get one." Backing this up is that an ex of mine told me initially that he was attracted to big women, but toward the end of our marriage he "confessed" that he didn't actually prefer bigger women but thought that he himself was so unattractive that he couldn't get a lingerie model. His words.

So, what I wonder is, whether the men in my life have been attracted to me, or merely settled for me.

As for genetic predisposition, my daughter points out that we are not monkeys and have the ability to overcome evolutionary programming.