Soliaree, I know you've had a really rough time lately and you are very angry at T... but I'm wondering too if you've looked at all this from T's point of view and his staff's point of view.
I think T, like every one of us, has the right to feel angry. You and he could talk more about that. I know you feel defensive at the moment, but it might help to talk about T's anger as well as his defense of his staff. This is what's happening now and it's always good to make therapy about what's happening now.

I hope you are feeling much better.