Kv,
I am 100% agreement with you. You love your kids but at some point they want to be "free" from you and you want to be "free" from them in a way. In my opinion when a kid is old enough to go out on his own then he is on his own. My parents never had money and I had to take care of myself. I got in some jams but it was up to me to get myself out. I may have had to borrow money from someone but they were people I have had to pay back. No free ride. I only had me to count on and it kept me from making alot of mistakes cause I knew there was no one to bail me out. I had to think first before I did something stupid.
You have raised your kids and I have no doubt that you wouldn't think for a second if one of them needed help. The difference is one is responsible and you know he is trying to do his best and you know if he needed financial help he is good for it. The other is putting himself into a very iffy situation, well aware of the consequences of breaking the law in another country and not having much money to pay for his entire stay. If he CHOOSES to do that, in my opinion, he also chooses to deal with whatever happens on his own.
That's just my comments.
Heidu

Though no one can go back and make a brand new start, anyone can start from now and make a brand new ending.
~ Carl Bard ~