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Originally Posted by sarahsweets
When my daughter went to prom, we hosted 6 couples in a tent in our backyard. We did this so there would be no alcohol or drugs and to let them feel like they were "grown up enough" to stay "on their own". They were up nearly the whole night and periodically we would bring out snacks and stuff for them. They had music (I cleared it with my neighbors) and they all went to the beach the next day. My daughter was so shocked at my suggestion and thought how "cool" I was. She didn't know we did it to keep tabs on them. I knew what wouldnt be going on at my house and hubby and I kept a presence throughout the night. We even checked out the tent for any shenanigans while they were asleep-or just hanging out in the tent. it was the best thing I ever did. I called everyone's parents to make sure they knew what was going on and kept all the numbers at hand. The kids felt they had their space and it was a special night. All that being said- they were 17+18 and we were home. No way would I allow a co-ed sleepover at 15 and definitely not when the dad wasn't home. He would be asking for trouble. Suppose someone brings alcohol and they get loaded and someone falls and hits there head and dies? What about alcohol poisoning? I think it could maybe influence decisions about sex or sexual behavior. I hope you dont think I am insinuating that your daughter would do any of that or that I think she has nefarious plans- I am simply looking at it from the perspective of a former teenager and because my kids are now 23,19,15 so I have been through high school with two of them. I hope I didnt offend you or hijack your thread I just wanted to share.
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I appreciate the response. I think the way you handled it with your daughter was great!
Thing is I could never move the sleepover here. Back yard is just not big enough. So that would mean they’d all be confined to rooms. And that is absolutely not going to happen.
And I get exactly what you’re saying about the alcohol and inappropriate behaviour that could stem from it. And that was a thought that crossed my mind. It all starts “somewhere” and I’d rather her not be in a position of potential influence.