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Originally Posted by never. happy
You know what, stuff like this is really unfair. I just don't get it. People are expected to support their siblings or friends and people they care about no matter what, but when it comes to stuff they do that may not be good for them, we should let them make their own decisions. How does that make sense? I'm the one who covered for her (she asked me to cover for her, so wouldn't that come under her list of private choices too?)when she met him trusting that she wouldn't do anything stupid, and praying that her ex wouldn't do anything stupid. Whenever she asks me a favor regarding something like this, I always pray that I die instead of anything bad happening to her. Doesn't that give me atleast some right to feel this way? I know that what I said sounds selfish. It's not fair. I just don't get it   |
Hello NeverHappy. Thanks for writing back. If you re-read my post, I never said you were selfish. I don't think that at all. And I would never call anyone on PC selfish..that's not a nice thing to call someone.
You DO have a right to feel how you feel. There are no wrong feelings.
You also have a right not to do favors for someone if you don't feel comfortable. If your sister is asking you for a favor and you feel like you'd "rather die" than do it, you could say something like: "I love you. And I am not comfortable doing this favor. If you need help with your boyfriend, you will need to ask someone else. I don't feel comfortable being in this situation."
I am sorry you are feeling mad and hard done by. That sounds really tough. I honestly was trying to help when I wrote to you; I am sorry if it didn't come across that way.
Here's a question: I know you love your sister and you are worried about her. Is it okay to ask what specifically you are worried about? What is the bad thing that you fear happening to her? If you'd rather not say, that's okay. I just thought maybe I could help you think it through.
Also, if you'd prefer not to hear from me again, I will respect your boundaries...just let me know and I will refrain from posting on your thread.
I wish you and your sister peace.
