I am sorry that you took my words to be an accusation - particularly of laziness. This was not my intention at all. Rather, I was making an attempt to offer a possible solution to this matter which ails you. I honestly believe that a great deal of miscommunication is that which is based in our non-verbal behaviour. Now I will take the opportunity to be more direct. How willing a participant are you in actively taking part in communication and dialogue with others? How positive are you being? You have to want to speak with other people for it to be a good experience.