That is the worst question to ask. Bad behavior should never be tolerated - it should always be punished until it improves. Changing myself to better tolerate abuse would signal my abusers that it is safe to abuse me, and they'd double down. That absolutely cannot happen - they must be fought against until they break. Doing anything that signals tolerance, approval, or encouragement of abusive behavior is itself as immoral as the abusive behavior, as its inevitable result is more abusive behavior.

I must stop people from hating me and lying to me or die trying, because their behavior will kill me outright if they don't stop. Because they will never consent to stop abusing me, they must be crushed and brought to heel forcibly.