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Originally Posted by Open Eyes
What stands out to me is that she was already in an committed 18 year relationship. She probably isn't ready to get into another committed relationship again yet. She sounds like she enjoyed having someone to talk to and vent to and mull over what direction she may take in her life, not sure what she really wanted.
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Yep, that is completely correct.
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Originally Posted by Open Eyes
You might have shared too much of your history, and what stands out to me is that you had an on and off relationship for 15 years, never married, never really fully committed?
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Nah, I have 2 ex-wives. Both cheated on me. The second left me for some guy she met in an online game. We talk these days. She doesn't even remember the guy's name now.
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Originally Posted by Open Eyes
I am wondering if you have a pattern you don't realize where you get attached, break away, get attached again and break away. Something to stop and think about that you might not realize about yourself.
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I do have a pattern, yes, but that's not what it is. It stems from codependency, and something that I've been working on in counseling for a while now. Because I'm C-PTSD, I have a history of the push/pull dynamic. I get scared, I push people away trying to feel safe, that scares me more, and I pull them back.