Thank you SilverTrees.

We just work in the same office building, but different suites. As an interesting aside, her ex-husband's office is right across the hall from mine. It must be incredibly uncomfortable for the two of them. He won't even look me in the eyes as we pass one another - that's a different discussion though.

My boss is going into semi-retirement in a few months, so the office will be closing and I won't be in the building anymore. I just need to deal with things until then.

I have been giving thought to volunteering a lot lately. Mostly because it is a way to meet people and hopefully develop new friendships. That's part of my problem, I don't have a lot of friends or people to talk to or do things with.

I definitely think of all of this as a learning experience. Mostly, I've learned that I need stronger boundaries and to respect myself more.

So, she wants to talk today and see if we can work things out to salvage the friendship. I wish that I was more shocked by this, but I'm not. Of course she wants the friendship, it was beneficial to her. It doesn't hurt her. She gains from it. So, this is where I have to think about and respect myself enough not to allow myself to remain in a hurtful situation. That is going to be super tough for me because I've never learned to do anything other than give people what they want.