I'm so sorry you and your family are going through all of this, BirdDancer It's admirable that you want to help your father, but please don't neglect yourself. You are important as well. I'd suggest to try to teach your dad how to do those things that he's not able to do by himself, like paying the bills or cleaning up the house. That way he will be able to do them by yourself, even if you do decide to go away some day. Remember that you can only do so much to help him. The final decision is up to him. He's the one that needs to improve if he wants to get better. From what you wrote, he doesn't seem too interested in doing this. I'd suggest to talk to him about this and see how it goes from there. Maybe that could help. I agree with what all the others have already wisely said better than I ever could. You've been given some great advice in this thread. I'd suggest to try to follow it if you can. I'll try not to repeat it too much. I agree with luvyurself that you have every right to ask for help to your sister. She's her dad, too, after all. Don't be afraid to ask for help! You have every right to do it and it's not fair that you should do it all by yourself, like sarahsweets and all the others have already wisely said. Remember to take care of yourself as well! You're a strong, wonderful person. I'm sure you'll be able to get through all of this. Remember that we're here for you if you need it. Feel free to PM me anytime. Let me know if I can do something to help you. Wish you good luck! Let us know how it goes. Sending many hugs to you, BirdDancer. You're a strong, wonderful person and you deserve to get better. Please don't give up. I hope things will get better soon for you and your family