This means something. Well, yeah, obviously. But its like you are not your own person, but you cannot stand the family's definition of you either.

The problem comes when they cannot accept your definition of yourself. My brother once told me he could not approve of what i was doing. I think the main thing was that i was divorced and not submitting myself to a man. This he said after he interfered in my best relationships. So they sabotage your future, then they punish you for it.

You have your freedom. Women of a certain age often do, at least in this culture. Its a gift and a curse.