Riptide, YES! I have often felt bad for taking and not gviing..but T says shes there to be used....I think the feeling of being bad for taking comes from childhood...the only way I find I can say something even close to "hi how are you" is to say now and again, "I Know your there, I see you" this way I feel I've let T know that I am so selfish that I dont see her as another person in the room...