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I think you've answered your own question really. I'm not quite sure why you seem to be so upset and I have so much anxiety. Are you worried that you are codependent? Do you think you might be? You say he is a good guy and I can't help but wonder that there is something more going on that is causing you such pain and anxiety. I hope that if you do break up with him you are not doing something that will ultimately hurt you. But at the same time it is not really fair for him to be in a relationship with you if you are not invested in making it work. I understand why you are worried about meeting his family and spending 10 days with him. The fact that you haven't met him at all and are in such a serious relationship makes me wonder if it's just easier for you because you have Unresolved feelings that you are not sure how to deal with. I mean no disrespect I am just thinking a little outside the box and wondering if this is something you can move beyond.
It's very easy to think that breaking up is the only solution and it might be. But it also might be a way of running away because you are scared of your feelings. I think when we have fear it is easier for us to run away than deal with it. If you have a different relationship with another guy in the future how do you know you won't feel the same way? If you get close with somebody do you think that running away is something that brings you comfort? You might not want to break up with him if this is something that is a passing feeling. But if you think there's any chance in the world that this is a permanent feeling and that the stress is too much for you, ending it now is what is fair to him.
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