What you have shared is that you live your life around your husband and his drinking. It's ALL about him.

YES! Get this job and choose to do things for YOURSELF. Instead of saying "will he let me get this phone?", say "I am going to get myself a new phone". Instead of saying "will he let me get the sleep I need?" choose to say, "I am going to make sure I get the sleep I need!". If he gets drunk and wakes you up if you sleep in the same bed? Set up a place you can sleep by yourself so he can't disturb you. You don't set up any boundaries with him.