Good post Mulan I do this sometimes too

Also though, I don’t know why exactly, so many people have made wrong assumptions about me. Maybe it’s the CPTSD (and maybe Avpd) that I give off “stay away” vibes or something like that.. or maybe my anxiety makes others uncomfortable and then they judge me.

Do you (or anyone) relate to any of this..

Therapists have told me to “do things” like going round to unknown neighbours,
knocking on their doors, with the goal of having a talk. And the neighbour didn’t offer me a cup of tea. And gave me a Not so friendly look (it’s true, I’m sensitive but usually I think I read people quite well ) So I “failed”

I don’t think that is a helpful approach for me...

I’m interested in learning more about schemes, anything really that might be of relevance

(Just not judging people or defining what “whining” or “not endearing” means or if there is any value in such judgments about others - personally I don’t think there is. If someone wants to or needs to talk about what hurts them without having an obvious solution to it, who am I to judge that)

I like the AS Is bus..

I think solutions flow from AS IS.. it might take a year, it might take decades. Sometimes people “grow” and I don’t get to witness it... sometimes I do