Hello DadLyfe: I see this is your first post here on PC. So... welcome to Psych Central. One additional forum, here on PC, that may be of interest to you would be the relationships & communications forum along with it's divorce & separation sub-forum. Here a link to the relationships forum:

https://forums.psychcentral.com/rela...communication/

And then, since you & your gf have a child together, one additional forum you may wish to check out would be the healthy parenting forum:

https://forums.psychcentral.com/healthy-parenting/

I'm sorry I don't think I am the correct person to offer advice with regard to your concerns. Hopefully there will be other members who will feel able to do so. In the meantime, however, here are links to 4 articles, from Psych Central's archives, on the subject of recovering following a break-up:

Help on Healing from Heartbreak

10 Tips for Navigating Heartbreak

Letting Go and Moving On After a Breakup or Divorce

https://psychcentral.com/blog/reclai...r-breaking-up/

I hope you find PC to be of benefit.