My boss knows about the arson. When I talked to him the day after to tell him I needed some time off I'm pretty sure I told him that he'd been threatening to kill me, but I don't think I ever used the words domestic violence and he doesn't know any other details about what was going on. I'm not even sure if he would consider any of it DV. I don't think I will say anything else about it. I don't want to be seen as a snowflake or some other derogatory term. I just really wish they wouldn't have these conversations over the top of my head. It gave me a flashback to a particular night that I'd rather not have to remember first thing in the morning.