Have you ever asked her to sit down and discuss it with you? Or express yourself in a note? Ever asked her to go to a counselor with you? My mom is the same way.....and I do not even do anything back, you would think the interrogation would stop if you meekly comply with it but no!! Your Mom you cannot choose, I guess, that's what everyone always told me....you CAN choose your friends so choose wisely and put your heart into them, and eventually a mate of your choosing, it's all about choice, when you have that choice..life gets better believe it or not, as you grow into it............