What do you say to your friend when they tear you down? Does he or she know it hurts you?

I'm newly diagnosed and I definitely said hurtful things during my episode a few months back. I don't believe the things I said and I wish I could take it all back. I'm sorry and embarassed for what I did, but I was clearly impaired. I don't tear people down regularly and my disorder was involved. The people I hurt know I was in a bad place and mentally ill and they have forgiven me, but I know it still hurts. I can't change it, but I can work hard to stay healthy and show them how I feel about them while I'm well.

You probably aren't doing anything wrong and you don't have to take verbal abuse. Try not to let it escalate and walk away if you can. Your friend may not realize how you feel, so maybe trying talking to him or her about it at a time when things are balanced. Its hard to receive feedback when you're manic or depressed. You shouldn't have to tiptoe, but approaching your friend during a well time improves the chance you will be heard. I hope it gets better for you both.