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Old Mar 20, 2019, 08:38 PM
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Couch opinion wanted... Murky t boundary situation.

My anxiety has been bad, but I have always had anxiety about traveling. I have to travel with my daughter this weekend for a dance competition about 3hrs away. Tons of anxiety all around about traveling, but just also have tons of anxiety in general constantly worry about terrible things happening. Just not good all around. T and I were talking about it today and how I was worried about having panic Attack all weekend while we are at this event.

T then mentioned well he would be there for most of the weekend (I knew he would be). but while we are at these functions you are not my t you just the dad of another kid who dances with my kid. And he said yes, but if you felt like you needed to talk because my anxiety was out of control I could. And laid it all on me.. if I felt comfortable I could reach out.

Likely I won’t need that, but I also feel like I want a plan for if my anxiety is that bad this weekend. I want to know how I feel about it now.. and not in the midst of anxiety. On one hand I love how open he was to me asking for help from him. BUT- I think also, we have done so great with our dual relationship and clearly setting up boundaries, that I don’t want to ruin that. Though, I don’t think he would have offered if he thought I would some how take advantage from
Now on. Ultimately I know it is my decision, but I also want to know if anybody else thinks this maybe be getting close to really blurring the boundaries?
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