I think this is interesting. My mother was not available to me as a child and T and I are looking at that now. My T though doesn’t mind being the “good enough parent” for me even though he doesn’t really get parent transference. He has said before that he looks forward to discussing something with me in session, he initiated touch last week because I hadn’t gotten it as a child, and I can see him letting me know he was there for me. I guess some of it is that he is a different type of T than most of the others (more like yours) that I have worked with. Personally, I am finding his nurturing to be very healing without creating a huge increase in dependency... well come to think of it, less dependency than the therapists who encouraged the frustration of unmet needs so that I would survive or what ever and heal from being deprived a second time as an adult.