It takes a while to work through these issues before the transference goes away. Your T will sometimes represent your mother, sometimes your father....

Something I've noticed over the years is many people don't realize how much impact their parents' way of relating has had on them. and what you are experiencing now is a good deal of how the therapy is supposed to work.

All this is just unfolding in your therapy right now. It's a new phase after building trust in your T, lowering defenses, and navigating the initial resistances. You've redirected your focus from him to you-that's progress right there; a change that represents that the therapy is working.

If I could answer your initial question, I would just give you my perspective that the transference ends when your past no longer has that kind of influence over your behavior, which is a process that happens alongside getting to a place where you are separated from your T and relate to him as an independent person. It's not a quick change by any means.