I had already thought of the "I" statements and how they appear to someone who doesn't know how to communicate, like my son! He doesn't know one single rule!

My first thought is to write and send, but my experience is that my oldest son will just push the delete button and never respond. I want the DILs to hear, too, so I planned on saying it in person. Maybe I should have posted my intention of giving them time for rebuttal.

I don't really expect it to do any good, except for the fact that I'll finally be standing up for myself. So far, I've just been keeping my mouth shut. Result; I get run over all the time.

Hopefully, just the fact that Mom said something will change things. I used to be very vocal. You think they'll sit up and take notice? I sure don't expect them to change their thinking.