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Originally Posted by Have Hope
I am guilty of following Jen Aniston's story, lol. I just wonder because there were real stories online in mags and quotes from friends saying she really wanted a baby. But yes, it must get VERY old for her, I would imagine.
Oh no... no rude looks or comments about not having babies. What I HAVE had though is "why aren't you married yet??!??" Now that's frustrating. I imagine it would be very frustrating regarding not having kids, too.
I suppose many people in this world believe that our life purpose is to get married and have children. If you don't, then what's wrong with you? Something must be wrong, is what many ppl will think.
I have the opposite viewpoint -- do what you want -- and do whatever makes you happiest! People can judge all they want... I don't mind because I am happy. There are many pathways to being happy.
You know what's interesting? My mother told me that the happiest people in this world are single women without children! It's written in some report, based on studies, and published by a major publication. Interesting, eh?
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I get both! I'm in a relationship but will not marry. And I'm not having children so I get the Qs about my lack of a husband and lack of babies. Yes, many in Society believe that a woman's purpose in life is to be a wife and mother. So those of us who follow our own path are often deemed "deficient" or "confused" or "not real women" or "selfish." It's disheartening. That's why I started the thread. The more open we are with our individual truths, the more likely that people will start to see that there's > 1 way to live as a woman. Honestly, the toughest critics of unmarried women/women who choose not to have children are married women with children. Not all of them obviously but many. One single woman in her 60s has done a lot of research on it. She said that female Singletons often seem to trigger anxiety or resentment among married people just by existing. She even found cases of outright cruelty or aggression toward single women.
The study your mother mentioned is legit. I've heard of that one. Very interesting indeed.