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Originally Posted by Have Hope
Yes, I hear you!
I’ve learned over the years to ignore what other ppl say and think especially when it’s negative input about my own choices or life. It’s YOUR life. And that means choosing things that make you happiest.
Unfortunately the unhappiest ppl often are the most judgemental.
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Your points are very well made HaveHope. Thank you for contributing.
There's someone on PC with a great signature line. Sorry I don't remember who. Something like:
"Selfishness does not mean living your life as you want to; selfishness is expecting other people to live their lives as you want them to."
And I agree, there's a strong link between misery and judgment. I recently read some really interesting research on how intense loneliness can actually lead people to be more negative and less accepting of others even though they truly wish to have new friends in their life. Though of course I'm not saying that all lonely folks are negative! But that particular trend in the research was interesting because it described one of my siblings very well. The more I tried to help him, the more hurtful he was toward me. So now I peacefully leave him be. Sad though because I know he wants closeness in his life but he's so bitter and rude to people that they don't want to be around him. Sidebar! Oops!
