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Originally Posted by Quarter life
Hi lost4357669.
Looking at your achievements peppered through your post (and yes there are achievements) I feel that you are doing better than others. You own a car, have a job, and are motivated to bettering yourself even more. Knowing that you want more is half the battle won.
Finding strategies to get to where you want to be is the hard bit...But as members above have suggested, getting qualified in a field that will bring you more enjoyment, fulfilment and financial gain will take some careful planning.
Dreaming bigger is fine...but start putting plans together step by step to achieve those dreams.You may need to tighten your belt by giving up a few luxuries, or even move to another state to achieve those dreams...but nothing worthwhile is easy. There will undoubtedly be a few stumbles and hurdles along the way...but the best time to start moving toward those goals is now.
I wish you all the very best in your journey...us ordinary people are capable of amazing things.
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Thank you for the well wishes. I have really tightened my belt but it's not nearly enough to get back to school.
I just lost so much time. And wasted it.
I'm trying so hard right now, spending the majority of my weekends on these resumes and cover letters and searches, getting up at 4am everyday to get a couple of hours in of that before work and staying up late every night.
I can't get past the things people used to say to me, how I was going to be able to do great things, that I was special. They used to call me Patch Adams Jr when I worked with kids at schools and volunteered at Special Olympics. I used to be a guy that was all smiles and knew how to cheer people, especially kids up. I was told I'd be such a great dad.
I might not ever have enough money to support a kid. What kind of woman is going to want to married a guy who's broke in his late 30's? The clock is ticking everyday on that kind of stuff and it doesn't look good. And I'm ashamed to even visit those kids and schools now because of what I am, a disappointment.
I don't know how to cope with it all. I'll keep working on it but I can't enjoy anything in life anymore. It is funny though, it's the easiest time I've ever had with dieting. I used to be a huge foodie that always had a little belly and I'm shedding it fast now because I just super healthy now because I really don't even taste or care about food anymore, I'm just eating so I don't die. I don't even feel hungry anymore since all this depression kicked in.
Sorry this became kind of a rant, you're just trying to help. I hope you're right that things can change.